Party and Play Rules

To ensure everyone knows what they are getting into, here are the party and play rules for our events. We will review these with all guests as they arrive.

If you have any questions or concerns about these rules, please contact us (form below).  If you cannot abide by these rules and wish your ticket to be refunded, please contact us as well.


Arrival: Please arrive between 9pm and 11pm. Doors are locked at 11pm and no one will be permitted in after this time.
You must arrive with your PAL(s).  If you do not, you will not be admitted; there is no waiting space inside the event.  Please coordinate your schedules.
Do not bring anyone who’s name is not already on the guest list, no matter how cute. Your entire group will be turned away.

Dress: You must be in costume; we encourage you to dress to the theme! Be the art, and help make the night more magical for all! Non-theme costumes are also welcome. Fetish/ freak/ formal/ fancy attire is always accepted.  Street clothes, (non-fetish) t-shirts & jeans, or sneakers/trainers, or everyday attire will not be admitted.  Please dress up! We would hate to turn anyone away! Whatever your style, put on the dog and dress to the nines!


Welcome to Kinky Salon!

Here is what we want you to know to help all of us have the best possible time at our events.

Consent: We want you to feel comfortable, adventurous, and protected in this safe/r space. Consent makes that possible, and consent is critical to us. Everyone should respect the wishes of one another. Ask First. State your boundaries. Gracefully accept ‘No’ for answer. If you experience a consent violation at one of our event please contact a Monitor or Security staff and ask to speak to an Organizer, we will address the issue immediately.  If you need to contact us after an event, please use the message fields below and we will reply promptly, with confidentiality and respect.

Basic Consent Rule: Ask First. Ask before touching. Don’t assume. — If you are approached and aren’t interested, a polite “No Thank You” is sufficient. If you hear “No Thank You”, be gracious and respect it. It’s not personal.

Monitors: Out DMs or dungeon monitors can be identified by their lighted badges. If you have a question, a suggestion, or need information or supplies, or if you see or experience a consent violation, talk to one of our helpful monitors.

Alcohol, smoking, drugs: No illegal substances are allowed, you and your PALs will be asked to leave. We provide only non-alcoholic refreshments & snacks to all guests. All personal bottles must be checked in to our bar, and you may check them out for beverages. Smoking of any kind must take place outside of the venue. We discourage anything that leads to a reduced ability to consent. We encourage moderation in all things, and personal responsibility.

Play rules: Our play rules are prominently posted at each event.

Ask for Consent first
State your Boundaries
Pre-negotiate your scenes
Practice sensible safer sex
Respect each other and each other’s space
Ask about and respect pronouns & gender fluidity
Contribute where & when you can, Kinky Salon is you and us together!
Clean up after yourself (especially play spaces!)
Kinky Salon is a ‘Campsite Rule’ event “leave it better than you found it!”

Don’t Interact with a scene already in progress
Don’t Linger unaccompanied in play spaces
Don’t Cruise aggressively (even if they are really cute!)
Don’t Get too intoxicated
Don’t Touch without asking first
Don’t Take photographs or Use your cellphone
Don’t Comment on a person’s ethnicity or background without a personal connection
Don’t Gossip about what goes on here

What happens at Kinky Salon, stays at Kinky Salon.

PAL: A PAL is a Pervy Activity Liason. A trusted person and ally. They may be a partner, or a friend, or a lover, of any gender. You may have more than one PAL at an event. You and your PAL/s must arrive together.  You are responsible for your PAL/s, and your PAL/s are responsible for you. If you or your PAL/s cause a disruption and you can’t work it out with our help, you may all be asked to leave.

Acceptance: Everyone is accepted at this party, regardless of gender, age, culture, appearance, or preferences. Be kind! Engage with respect! Ask! (By necessity, Kinky Salon is 21+ only. Sorry!)

If you experience unkindness from any guest, please let one of our monitors know right away, and we will address the issue promptly. If you had a bad experience with a patron and would prefer to report it after the event, please contact via the message box below. Your communication will be handled carefully, with respect & consent, and in a way that preserves your anonymity (by default).

No Phones/No Photos: NO cell phone use or personal cameras are allowed ANYWHERE inside this event. If you need to make a call, take it outside. No exceptions.

Library: Our lending library has toys you can sign out & play with, as well as information on various relevant topics.  Out librarians are happy to provide advice and suggestions. They may also consent to demonstrations. Ask ;>)

Supplies: Safer sex supplies are provided around the space. While we do not enforce any specific safer sex practices, we would hate for them to go to waste! We encourage safer sex practices and good boundaries. Wash your hands before and after consensual liaisons.

Clean up: This is a shared community space and we’d love to keep it playable. Help keep the space clean by picking up things ‘out of place’.  Place a towel under bare bottoms. Clean up after playing.  Replace the linens after use. And use the alcohol spray to wipe down surfaces.

Event: We offer a workshop in the early part of the evening (see event details).  Coat Check is available Ithank our volunteer!). And a Cabaret or other performance will also occur at the beginning of the evening.  Play spaces and dance spaces are throughout.

Thank you for coming to Kinky Salon. Go have fun!


Please respect that there are many newcomers here and our monitors are very busy — we request no high-intensity/high-volume pain, edge play, or breath play.

Please respect the play space by keeping it tidy for the next people — we request no blood-play, excessive fluids, fire, or wax play. We do not have the logistics or appropriate space to handle these sorts of scenes. Thank you for understanding.

We encourage towel use for all participants. You do know where your towel is, right?


If you have any concerns, or questions, or require further details about these rules please contact us:

Thank you!